Love Is – Love Isn’t

What is Love?

There are many ways we can talk about love. But there are certain images and words describing what love is that lead to confusion and sometimes to bad situations if acted on. In fact some of these messages are actually what love isn’t. There are many things about love that can’t be summed up in a word. Here are two lists to help you sort out what love is or isn’t. The purpose of these lists are to help you decide how you want to be treated.


  • Responsibility
  • Hard Work
  • Pleasure
  • Commitment
  • Caring
  • Honesty
  • Sex
  • Trust
  • Communication
  • Sharing
  • Compromising
  • Closeness
  • Recognizing Differences
  • Vulnerability
  • Openness
  • Respect
  • Friendship
  • Strong Feelings


  • Jealousy
  • Possessiveness
  • Pain
  • Violence
  • Sex
  • Obsession
  • Being Selfish
  • Cruelty
  • Getting Pregnant
  • Making Someone Pregnant
  • Dependency
  • Giving Up Yourself
  • Intimidation
  • Scoring
  • Fear
  • Proving Yourself
  • Manipulation
  • Expecting All Your Needs to Be Met