The reasons women stay in abusive relationships are very complicated. There are a wide range of emotional feelings that allow the abuse to continue and prevent the woman from leaving. Here are a few reasons that women stay in an abusive relationship:
Fear – Women fear the physical harm that might come if they attempt to leave.
Love – Women may truly have deep feelings for the abusive partner.
Promises – Promises that this abuse will never happen again.
Abuse = Love – Confusion between being loved and being controlled by their partner.
Guilt – Being made to think that the abuse is their fault, that they have the problem.
Not Being Believed – A strong fear that nobody will believe them if they speak out against the abuse.
Thinking They Can Change Them – The belief that over time the woman can change the abusive partner.
Low Self-Esteem – After being in an abusive relationship there is a feeling that they can do no better than their current relationship.
Being Alone – To end the relationship could mean a loss of mutual friends, relatives and others associated with the relationship.
Financial – Money, children and no place to go also hold women in these relationships.
Up Coming Events
Please join us for a brown bag lunch series 12 p.m to 1 p.m beginning Wednesday, May 4th. Bring your lunch to The First Congregational Church at One Church Street, Stoneham, MA. Topics will include: Healthy Relationships-Why It's hard to Get Help-Workplace Domestic Abuse-What is Abuse-How you Can Help-Warning Signs of Abuse Contact: Domestic Violence Liaison (1-718-438-1215 x 3106)
Elder Abuse Round Table at the Senior Center in June 2011. Stay tuned for details.